Overcoming Doubts and Making the Right Choice
“I have commitment issues” – a phrase often used in relationships, but who knew it could apply to university decisions as well? That’s exactly what I went through a couple of weeks ago when I finally made the decision to commit to my research university. However, the reality of my commitment didn’t fully hit me until I had to decline admission offers from other top universities, such as Florida State University.
As I hesitated to click the “no” button on the decline offer form, my heart raced, and my mind was flooded with questions. What if I made the wrong decision? Would Florida State have given me more financial aid if I asked? Could I have maintained my current relationships if I had chosen to go elsewhere? These thoughts and doubts left me second-guessing my commitment and considering alternate realities.
As I plan for grad school, I can’t help but feel grateful for the financial aid I received from my out-of-state university, which was more than what my in-state university offered. Despite the financial challenges, I know that I made the right decision to commit.
To combat my fear of commitment I chose to remind myself about what drew me to the school and one of the things that drew me to this university was the people. They are some of the nicest people I’ve ever had the opportunity to interact with. It’s also ranked in the top 15% nationally for my neuroscience major, providing me with all the resources I need and more to achieve my goals. I have a mentor, students from the university who provide me with guidance, and a financial advisor who helps me stay on track.
But the best part of committing to my current university is the nearly full ride I received through my financial aid plan. It’s a huge relief to know that I can focus on my studies without worrying about the financial burden.
To further combat my fear of commitment, I reached out to friends and professionals who could help me gain perspective. The mentors and friends currently in my life are people I frequently turn to whenever I’m in doubt. They remain my voice of reason in a world full of uncertainty and self-doubt.
I’ve also taken matters into my own hands by connecting with students from clubs and organizations I plan to join. The students at my university have always been super sweet and helpful, which also solidified my decision to attend.
Tips for Overcoming Commitment Doubts
Since commitment day is rapidly approaching, and many of you have either already committed to your university or are making that choice, I have a couple of tips to share with you to help you deal with the fear of commitment.
For starters, no matter what choice you make, you’ll always have some sort of doubt. It’s human nature and a fact of life. Take a deep breath and stop indulging in your “what ifs” and start indulging in your “what now’s.” You’re not alone, and your feelings are normal and valid.
Before committing, take time to research your options and look into their programs and how they fare in your choice of academic study. For example, if you want to study marine biology, schools like the University of Miami would be great for you, whereas a school somewhere in Maine might not have been a better fit for you. When making a choice, the level of rigor and resources a program has can either make or break the quality of education you’re bound to receive.
Talk to your loved ones and mentors so they can help give you advice and broaden your perspective. Another thing you can do is continue to set goals for yourself so that you’re focused and excited to continue your journey to university.
For instance, I utilized goal setting in my academic career a myriad of times. From maintaining a 4.6-semester grade average for three quarters straight during my senior year to spending more time with friends and family, it allowed me to remain focused and stay on track.
Finally, congratulate yourself and celebrate your accomplishments and achievements. No matter the college you decide to commit to, I am certain that you will do great.
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